During the holidays, many us will have the opprtunity to host guests or to be guest, perhaps both.

If you are hosting guests:

• Keep in mind a few errands that you can ask them to do if they want to help.
• Allow time and space for privacy.
• If you really want them to do or not do something, let them know clearly.  Relying ion mind-reading is rarely successful.
• Make sure they have a place to recharge phones, plug in laptops, or check email.
• Where possible, accommodate eating preferences – bith time and meal composition.

If you are a guest:

• Offer to help out.  If you get no for an answer, accept that. Don't keep badgering.
• Keep your living space neat and your things out of common areas. Your suitcase does not make attractive holiday decor.
• Send a thank you note and/or gift when you get home.
• If you need something, ask for it.  See previous note about the success of mind-reading.
• Never bring food to a dinner or party expecting it to be served without asking first.
• Similarly, don't bring an extra guest without asking — and only ask if you know the host well.